So cleaning out my planner I came across the list I made when I was young for what I want in a man. Now this list was started in High School and was added to through college, stopping roughly when I was roughly 19.
Now I love lists so it isn’t surprising I made it. What is funny is what is on it. So, to embrace an embarrassing aspect of my personality, here is the list of what I wanted in a man.
• Wants to take care of me as much as I want to take care of him
• Taller than me in heels *
• Well Groomed but not Shallow
• Healthy Eating Habits
• Physically Active
• Military Build (not necessarily in the military)
• Ambitious
• Passionate *
• Civic-minded
• Aware
• Kind
• Looking for a Laura Croft not a Betty or a Cindy *
• Intro at least 1: Music, Theatre or Politics
• Likes Old Movies
• Likes Kung Fu Movies
• Likes Action Movies *
• Likes at Least 1: Funk, Big Band, Ska, Techno, Jazz
• Has no issues with Gays or Homosexuality
• Doesn’t Pretend to be an expert in things he doesn’t know
• Clean *
• Smells Good *
• Understands how important my family is to me *
• Goal – Oriented
• Positive Thinking
• Good Manners *
• Only Recreational Smoking *
• No Drugs *
• Loves Dogs
• Either enjoys dancing or is okay with me going without him
• Loves Baseball, Football and/or Soccer
• Encourages Me
• Sees me as an equal
• Argues over who will get the bill
• A Gentleman
• Family Approved
• Kisses are addictive
• Makes me go silent during sex (in a good way)
• Lets me have alone time/ No Smothering
• Not Controlling
• Doesn’t Make Fun of Me
• Gentle
• Goofy/ Fun Loving
• Outgoing
• Adventurous *
• Warm
• Loves to Learn
• Can Cook
• Enjoys Traveling/ wanderlust
• Loyal to Friends
• Loves his mom but no hang-ups (doesn’t want a mom replacement in me)
• Decent with Money
• No Cheating
means it’s a dealbreaker
Hope this makes you giggle as much as it did me.
Umm.. Excuse me. It’s Lara Croft, not “Laura”.
I assume at 19 you haven’t met men yet. (maybe you still haven’t met many..) Not be an expert in everything? It’s what we do best! We are essentially the tiggers of the human world. If we don’t know something, we confidently BS our way through and have an unwritten man-law that prevents one man from correcting another in front of women-folk. It’s just not right.
“recreational smoking”? I suppose if life threatening things like skydiving, deep sea diving and bullfighting can be recreation, so can sucking a cancer stick.
There is no argument. The sophisticated 21st century woman can pay when we go out to dinner. Why make me worry about whether I have to pay.. or if we go dutch.. or if it’s my turn to pay since we’re alternating. Screw that. she can pay.
No smothering/Not Controlling/is okay with me going out without him.. I see a pattern. Not a clingy, whiny wimp works too. Wife wants to go to a movie with friends? God speed. Shopping the day after Thanksgiving? By all means, I’ll stay in bed and sleep. Going to do something I’m physically not going to enjoy? I’m happy to stay home and kill Terrorist SOBs by myself.
doesn’t make fun of you? Does this one still hold water? good natured ribbing is OK?
So.. adventurous, taller than you, understands family, etc are deal breakers? But.. Cheating is possibly OK? Your 19 year old self was weird.