Comments on: Further Tip Offs You are Dating a Loser: Guy Edition http://adventuresinlife.net/2009/12/07/further-tip-offs-you-are-dating-a-loser-guy-edition/ Geeky Mom and Kid Tackle the World Thu, 18 Feb 2010 15:39:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Sam http://adventuresinlife.net/2009/12/07/further-tip-offs-you-are-dating-a-loser-guy-edition/comment-page-1/#comment-72 Sam Wed, 09 Dec 2009 14:19:54 +0000 http://adventuresinlife.net/?p=63#comment-72 1) Communication and trust a required to make being friends with ex's a good thing. Too many men/women get jealous over ex's so being friends with the ex would make this situation worse. I think rule one requires a bit more caution and grey area. 2) Completely and emphatically agree with this one. Being supportive is a wonderful thing. Being over critical isn't. Most of the time, people assume being overly critical is the same thing as being supportive. For years, I suppressed parts of me because I didn't want to offend or I'd hide parts of me away so I wouldn't get grief about those parts. It's better to make finding someone who can live with your quirks part of your criteria in your love search. 5) No free pass on this. Emotions need to be kept in check and there is NO excuse for hitting/slapping someone when not done in jest. Passive aggressive physical abuse doesn't get a free pass either. I've seen people give back rubs when angry. They wouldn't ever give them normally, but when mad? They'd offer back rubs to help relieve stress. They wouldn't talk about what bothered them either, they'd just (for lack of a better term) rub it out. That doesn't fly with me. You should feel comfortable enough in a relationship to say what is on your mind. 1) Communication and trust a required to make being friends with ex’s a good thing. Too many men/women get jealous over ex’s so being friends with the ex would make this situation worse. I think rule one requires a bit more caution and grey area.

2) Completely and emphatically agree with this one. Being supportive is a wonderful thing. Being over critical isn’t. Most of the time, people assume being overly critical is the same thing as being supportive. For years, I suppressed parts of me because I didn’t want to offend or I’d hide parts of me away so I wouldn’t get grief about those parts. It’s better to make finding someone who can live with your quirks part of your criteria in your love search.

5) No free pass on this. Emotions need to be kept in check and there is NO excuse for hitting/slapping someone when not done in jest. Passive aggressive physical abuse doesn’t get a free pass either.

I’ve seen people give back rubs when angry. They wouldn’t ever give them normally, but when mad? They’d offer back rubs to help relieve stress. They wouldn’t talk about what bothered them either, they’d just (for lack of a better term) rub it out. That doesn’t fly with me. You should feel comfortable enough in a relationship to say what is on your mind.

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